9 Tips to Make the Holidays Less Stressful

It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas….at least around our house. My Hubby loves Christmas and makes it his mission to start getting the decorations up starting the day after Thanksgiving. This can be the most wonderful time of the year for many of us, but it can also be one of the most stressful ones. With that in mind, I thought I’d share a few tips to make the holidays a little less stressful this year.

Some of the biggest stressors this time of year seem to center around trying to do too much, spending too much, and doing too little to take care of ourselves. We put too many expectations on ourselves, want everything to be perfect, and spend too much trying to achieve that perfection. Does any of this sound familiar?

If it does, here are some tips to help take some of the pressure off.

1. Decide what’s important to you.

When it comes to celebrating the holidays, what’s most important to you? Is it church services? Spending time with loved ones? Supporting various charities in some way? Giving gifts? A combination of things?

Whatever it is, knowing what’s most important to us is the thing that can reduce stress more than almost anything else. When we have that figured out, we can set our priorities accordingly. That makes it easier to do those things that support what we really want to do and say no to the things we don’t want to do or can’t manage.

2. Be realistic.

So often, we fall into the trap of wanting everything to be perfect for the holidays. The thing is, they rarely are. Being realistic with our expectations can help us reduce stress by taking away some of the pressure we put on ourselves to make things perfect.

In their article Stress, Depression and the Holidays: Tips for Coping, the Mayo Clinic says,

As families change and grow, traditions and rituals often change as well. Choose a few to hold on to, and be open to creating new ones. For example, if your adult children or other relatives can’t come to your home, find new ways to celebrate together, such as sharing pictures, emails or videos. Or meet virtually on a video call. Even though your holiday plans may look different this year, you can find ways to celebrate.

Mayo Clinic

Being realistic about what we can and cannot do helps us avoid the stress of wanting to do everything/be everywhere at once. As the quote above said, “traditions and rituals change.” This may be just the year to embrace that.

3. Plan ahead.

December is not a ‘fly by the seat of your pants’ kind of month for most of us. If you know you’re going to have obligations around the holidays, it can help to plan ahead as much as possible.

Planning ahead can include:

  • Making a list of the gifts you’ll buy and how much you’ll spend on each person
  • Getting all the activities you’ll attend on the calendar so you know which days are free for other things
  • Setting specific days for shopping, cooking, spending time with friends, etc.
  • Planning your menu and making your shopping list for any meals or entertaining you’ll be cooking for
  • Making sure any gifts that have to be mailed are purchased, packed and shipped by the carrier’s deadlines to ensure they arrive on time

4. Pace yourself.

This really goes hand in hand with planning ahead, as that can be a key in our being able to get everything done without completely running ourselves into the ground. With a little planning, we can space all our tasks out over the month instead of trying to do everything in just a short period of time.

Pacing may also include paying attention to our energy levels. Knowing the time of day we usually feel best (or worst) can help us know when to tackle the bigger projects and when to do the small, less-energy-consuming tasks.

5. Set and stick to a budget.

Setting and sticking to a budget will not only reduce stress during the holidays; it’ll reduce stress in the new year when the bills come due. It’s a good idea to determine how much we can afford to spend for food and gifts and stick with our spending plan.

Having that budget can help us avoid overspending on gifts, and hopefully keep us from making those impulse buys we tend to make around this time of year.

6. Just say no.

Let’s face it — we can’t do everything, no matter how much we may want to. We have to set some boundaries. This may mean saying ‘no’ to some things we just don’t have time for, or that just isn’t that high on our list of priorities.

Remember — saying ‘no’ is much better than say ‘yes’ to something you really don’t want to do. When we say yes when we’d rather say no, we can start to become overwhelmed and feel resentful toward the very people we’re trying to connect with.

Background of white wall, Christmas greenery and stars, with quote: "It came without ribbons, it came without tags, it came without packages, boxes or bags.... Maybe Christmas," he thought, "doesn't come from a store. Maybe Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more."

7. Stick with your healthy habits.

It can be easy to slip into some not-so-healthy behaviors around the holidays, which can increase stress levels. There are all kinds of goodies everywhere you turn, we’re so busy we don’t think we have time for exercise, and we’re burning the candle at both ends.

This year, let’s enjoy the things we love (in moderation) while sticking with our healthy habits. Some of the things that can help us maintain our good habits are:

  • Eat healthy meals most of the time. Remember that treats are fine, but in moderation.
  • Maintain a regular sleep schedule. When we’re so busy, it’s easy to stay up later trying to get everything done, but sticking with a regular schedule can help us get our much-needed ZZZs.
  • Make movement a part of your daily routine. Exercise is a proven stress reliever.
  • Try some mind-body activities such as deep-breathing exercises, Yoga, Tai Chi, or meditation. These types of activities can help calm our minds as well as benefit our bodies.
  • Avoid drinking too much alcohol. While alcohol is often a part of holiday parties, overindulging can leave us feeling worse and cause us more stress.
  • Be aware of how social media is affecting you, and if need be, take a break from it. Sometimes ‘information overload’ can stress us out, especially if our lives don’t seem to be as happy or glamorous as those picture-perfect social media posts seem to say others’ are.

8. Set aside some ‘me time’ each day.

Around this time of year, we tend to focus on others’ happiness. There’s nothing wrong with that; in fact, that’s one of the greatest joys of Christmas for me. We just have to be careful that we don’t focus on others so much that we neglect our own wellbeing.

Even if it’s only 15 minutes a day, spending some time alone, without distraction, can help us relax and refresh.

9. Remember why you’re celebrating.

Sometimes we need to readjust our focus — we become so focused on the ‘doing’ of it all that we forget the real reason we’re celebrating. When this happens, it’s helpful to turn our attention back to what’s really important to us.

It’s not all about the gifts, the food, the decorations…. it’s much more than that. When we can focus on what why we’re celebrating, we can stop stressing and enjoy the season.

Perhaps the grinch from the movie How the Grinch Stole Christmas said it best:

It came without ribbons, it came without tags, it came without packages, boxes or bags…. Maybe Christmas,” he thought, “doesn’t come from a store. Maybe Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.

How the Grinch Stole Christmas

The holidays can be wonderful, but they can also be a source of stress for many people. Finding the things that help us reduce that stress can help us have a more joyful holiday season.

Do you find the holidays more joyful or stressful? What are your tips for making this time of year less stressful? Please share!



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  1. Stress, Depression and the Holidays: Tips for Coping, https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress/art-20047544
  2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/smart-habits-highly-successful-people/200912/7-tips-relieve-holiday-stress
  3. https://www.daveramsey.com/blog/holiday-stress
  4. https://www.heart.org/en/healthy-living/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/holiday-stress-try-our-top-5-tips-for-a-healthy-holiday-season

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  1. Such a timely post Terri. Usually this time of the season is where I tend to feel in a very good mood but underlying that feeling is a tone of stress. Figuring out what to get who, planning for the Christmas party at work with my co-workers and at home with my whole family, running around doing holiday errands and just coping with life. Getting in some “me time” is something that I really need to do and pause to really realize what this time of year really means and put it into perspective. You really gave some really useful suggestions!

    1. Thanks so much Mark! I think what you’re describing is what a lot of us go through this time of year. It’s such a special time, but as you said, there’s that undercurrent of stress with all the demands on our time, or the ones we place on ourselves. I hope this year you’re able to fully enjoy Christmas and the rest of the holiday season!

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